Sabotaging our Spiritual Growth

Let’s now look at some ways that the aspirant can stop or hinder their progress to the Threshold. You can see for more information.


The aspirant can make a mistake in understanding what is going on. It could be that they don’t want things to look the way they want or because they are looking for events to conform to their desires and hopes. An example of this is the aspirant stating that she is “done” with her parental and other childhood attachments. The inner world, however, is not as clearly defined or explicit than the outer. The inner world may be more defined than the outer. We can see when we have finished a task, whether it is painting, cooking or walking. However, our fantasies, projections, and fantasies can limit the progress and achievement of inner work. Her misinterpretation is that she avoids completion, holds on to her parents and retains a trace if childhood dependence, instead of truly releasing from any attachments. The therapist can ask these questions: How do you hold on to your childhood dependence? How does dependency show up in your daily life? How might you feel about your therapist and the therapy?


Internal bargaining is the act of haggling or psychological negotiations to resolve a problem or gain a concession. This is done in the hopes that it will not happen. Although bargaining serves a purpose in the external world it is not a good idea for the inner world. Taking from one side of yourself to benefit the other is counterproductive from the perspective of the psychological state called wholeness. To understand the inner state and condition of wholeness, the seeker must first realize that it is a relatively new condition. The therapist has to show the aspirant clearly that “robbing Peter and paying Paul” is no longer possible. We cross the Threshold either fully unto ourselves or not at ALL. Partialness will not be accepted. The therapist will encourage and support the aspirant to develop and sustain trust, faith and surrender. The therapist questions the aspirant about their awareness of bargaining. What do YOU think you can achieve with internal bargaining. What have you experienced in your life?

Sudden Crisis

One of these is the sudden onset or occurrence of a crisis. The crisis can lead to the aspirant having to relocate or care for a loved one. Although an unexpected crisis in the aspirant’s life is a component of the previous compens strategy, I have included this separately because I find it so frequent.

The therapist might ask: Why does this crisis appear in your life now? Is this crisis as serious or not? Is it possible that this current event coincides with an important time in your therapeutic process? Is this your way of avoiding a breakthrough within your therapy?

As obvious as this may seem to anyone except the aspirant it’s actually the case that the aspirant transfers the crucial opportunity onto someone near them and views them as experiencing an initiatory occasion. The aspirant feels the need to support or assist this process. This is an illogical way to conclude therapy at this critical moment in their own personal development. It is truly amazing how blind an aspirant, who may have been observant of their inner work, can become to the sequences that are threatening it. The therapist asks, “What do you see in this other person that shows what is happening in my life?” What would your next move be if you were a friend of [name]. How will it benefit you to leave your therapy? I feel that you are transferring your life circumstances onto your friend.

The aspirant suddenly finds himself drawn to another training, therapist or psychotherapy approach. There are glowing reports that this new method has been discovered by new or old friends. This makes your therapy more difficult. Modern examples include the Ayahuasca ceremonial, charismatic religious teachers, a slew of therapy approaches that promise fast or immediate results, as well as the ubiquitous “hit” of big-scale events based in humanistic psychology (Zen Buddhism) with celebrity endorsements proclaiming it to be a turning factor in their highly successful careers. It’s bailing, whatever it is.

The therapist is asking the following question: What makes this approach more beneficial than continuing with your existing therapy process? What have you seen in the past when grass is greener? What attracted to you to [name the charismatic leader or therapist] What made you believe that you could do your job faster after you had worked with me?

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